Take A Vow: How to Fight Fair

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27

Bitterness blinds us spiritually.

Bitterness oozes out into our other relationships.

Bitterness destroys our health.

God forgives completely.

As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:12

God forgives continually.

God forgets about the sin.

"For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more." Jeremiah 31:34

 God gives us a new future.

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!" Isaiah 43:18-19

Judgmental listening - Where a person constantly jumps to conclusions without hearing all the facts. THAT IS NOT BEING LOVING.

Selective listening - Only hearing what you want to hear. THAT IS NOT BEING LOVING.

Impatient listening - Finishing other people's sentences and interrupting them. THAT IS NOT BEING LOVING.

Egocentric listening - Thinking about what you'll say as others are talking. THAT IS NOT BEING LOVING.

Patronizing listening - Pretending to listen but really off in your own world. THAT IS NOT BEING LOVING.

Stubborn listening - You are listening, but your mind is already made up. THAT IS NOT BEING LOVING.

A great listener focuses on the other person.

A great listener is patient.

A great listener is able to paraphrase or summarize what the person said before they talk about what they need to talk about.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29